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How to Make All the Difference in Your Life

Live in the present moment


Low wooden sign amongst purple daisies, with Ever Green written on it.
Rob's hand-painted sign at the top of the driveway at Evergreen.

Life sometimes leads us to a fork in the road, a choice. Which road shall we take? When this happens, some of us recall that poem by Robert Frost – ‘The Road Not Taken’ – which ends with the memorable lines:


I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.


A close reading of the poem will dispel the widespread belief that Frost was inferring that if you take the road less traveled you’ll have a more exciting, distinctive, and productive life. In fact, he states early in the poem that both roads were ‘really about the same’. It’s only the stories we tell ourselves and others in retrospect about the choice we made that make that choice seem the right one (or the wrong one) – the one that made all the difference.


Anyway, that’s enough poetry analysis for one day. What I’m addressing here is that we can dramatize the choices we’ve made and make them appear right or wrong, when, really, they were just steps along the way that didn’t change the deeper outcome of our life very much.


Bear with me before your mind leaps in with examples of choices you’ve made that you believe did dramatically change your unfolding.


A Story About Evergreen


Rob and I bought this property we call Evergreen almost on a whim, twenty years ago. Rob and our oldest son, who was sixteen at the time, were on a bike trip, riding with a group from Pemberton to Albany. They rested for a day in the town of Denmark, and while walking the streets Rob spotted an advertisement taped to the window of a second-hand shop.


Poster advertising a property between Albany and Denmark. Photo of 2 storey wooden house amidst tall trees.
Flyer Rob found taped to a shop window in the town of Denmark, advertising the property we bought and named Evergreen.

We’d talked about the need to move from Perth and to have a bit of land to accommodate our five children. So, when he got back home, he told me what he’d seen taped to the window. We planned a two-day trip to look at the property as well as others for sale in the area, but once we’d seen this place and knew we could afford it, we looked no further. Within four months we had moved in.


Now, I could tell a portentous story about this, saying that buying this place made all the difference to our lives, including our children’s, and that if we hadn’t bought it our lives would’ve been less exciting, distinctive, and productive. But there were other places for sale. If we’d taken the time to look at them, we may have chosen differently. We may have named other possible places Blue Lagoon or Skyview or Tall Trees or Snake Pit, depending on what it was like. But we and our children still would’ve lived, overall, in a similar manner to how we’ve lived at this place we call Evergreen.


This isn’t negating the power inherent in choice and chance, which can coalesce into something meaningful. My point is that ‘something meaningful’ can happen in many ways, not just in the way it did.


It's not where we live, who we live with, or what we do for a living that makes all the difference. It’s how we live that makes all the difference.


Live in the Present


If you want to make all the difference in your life, here is a suggestion.


Whatever situation you find yourself in, wherever you are, whoever you are with, whatever you are doing, be present.


When you are present, when your mind is uncluttered by old and repetitive thoughts, when you are open to universal consciousness rather than your own limited viewpoint, each moment is a spacious, clear window to meaningful possibilities.


Then there is a certainty that your next thought, action, or words will make all the difference.


With love, Marlane

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Stonewall Moses
Stonewall Moses
Jan 21, 2023

Another great teaching that inspires me. I am down and out right now from spinal surgery, I am forced to live in the moment now from pain. But the mind in an attempt to regain or sustain sanity, focus’s on the past with the strength of a swimmer heading for shore. It hurts means more than pain. Weeping or crying doesn’t help, as every road on recovery brings hope as the doctor slams the door ever so slowly. I am in the moment, and I can’t reach the shore, but I swim on.

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Stonewall Moses
Stonewall Moses
Jan 27, 2023
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I agree we need kindness, I have found some kindness, but not In a super hospital. Western Australia must have some excellent medical institutions, not so in North Central Alabama. Fear comes to mind, as they torture us with their half ass efforts to cure.

You do a great job of writing.

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